Jules & Miscellaneous shit..

So tonight I went out and had a margarita and dinner at Don Pablos in Laurel. It was me, Rachel, Jules, and Alison. Faith opted to stay home :-( After that, we headed home to play around in the pool. (Our family is coming tomorrow, and we definitely need to have fun tonight)!

Some of you guys ask me a lot of questions - about Jules (msjulie.com) and what's going on & what is our situation etc., Here's the deal. I came to the US when I was 17, she came out two years later. Her mother, and my mother were sisters (my mom has since died). I've always been interested in the whole B&D thing, and introduced her to it, and we both did sessions - sometimes together, but most often or not, she had her clients, and I had mine. We initially had a dungeon in Wheaton together, but literally it burnt down to the ground, and at that point we'd both decided we really wanted to live someplace a little more remote. We (she and I, and my husband) bought the estate place in Columbia, and we all moved in together.

Moving right along, I put together the msjulie.com site for her. Remember, I have ADD and don't sleep much. I was kinda done with the pro-sessions, bored & wanted to learn web design. I'd read the emails from her clients, and kinda give her a heads up on what the session should be, and afterwards she'd tell me how it went and I'd write her up a journal entry, which she'd read, then modify if need be. After about 3 years of crazy living together, hubby and I decided to buy a whole new place, which we then moved into. During those 3 crazy years we had live in slaves - one in particular, Olivia, gave up absolutely everything to move in and serve our every need.

I'm not going to give a blow by blow account, but we've had a few differences of opinion in the past, but it's currently all good. She hasn't done the professional domination stuff in a very long time - like 4 years or more. She's a certified personal trainer, and she works at a strip club in MD, and occasionally does the bachelor party thing, or private viewings. She got burnt out on the whole female domination & pro domme thing.

I took down the website when it became apparent that she was not going to return to being a pro-domme, and because I lost complete interest in updating it, or maintaining it.

We've had some rip roaring parties at our house, (it's got 8 extra bedrooms besides her suite, and mine), it's equipped with jail cells, stables, a huge outdoor swimming pool & veranda, and before she packed away all the dungeon furniture, an amazing HUGE basement. It's very private, backs up to a state park, and just to get to the house, you have to cross a private bridge, and drive down a 3/4 mile driveway. We used to have 5 horses, but now only have two. We both grew up riding horses on the beach in Ireland, and working for a company during the summers that would give lessons to tourists.

We have a large Irish family, with lots of brothers, sisters, aunts/uncles etc., and for the most part we're very close. I'm thinking that I'd like to put together the dungeon again, so that I can have fun and play around in it, BUT it's really not worth it, unless I'm doing the professional domination thing. It costs money to maintain & run the house, and the dungeon equipment is a huge investment, which I'm not sure I wanna do the upkeep on. I also think that the money exchange for me, takes away the fun, and spontaneity of my playtime. On the other hand, cash is kinda nice, and I could stick it away and fill up another mattress or two with it & I already know that I probably want my kids to go to private school, so it could pay for that.....

I have also flirted with the idea of perhaps hooking up with a few dommes in the area who would like to use the space, when I'm NOT using it, and / or use the space to host some more parties (but we're so not into the "scene" in this area - black rose, or crucible people hanging out here.... no thanks, we're not those girls). I am kinda interested in meeting the younger, hipper, more open to sex crowd, and TNG might be an avenue to explore. I did talk to Lexi about filming at our place, and I know that most of the pro-dommes now a days are into selling their video clips and running their website as a main source of income. I'm too private to want to do that, and I don't want anything out there that could potentially come back to haunt me.

Jules on the other hand wants to use the space to start her own personal training business, so that she's not giving 60% of her income to the gym. She's totally against me getting back into the pro-domme game & thinks that I should be happy with the few subs I see for my own personal fun and enjoyment, and that I don't need anymore.


Anyway, some of the other daft things that you guys have been asking me are:
Do I like to read? Absolutely when I have time. During the school year however, I'm pretty much a full time stay at home mom, and summer is basically our vacation time. SO, because I'm on vacation, I'm trying to read all the trash that I can get my hands on!

I am in the middle of this book:
and Mike just gave me "Secret Diary of a call girl", which was made especially for the new tv series on Showtime. However, the tv show was put together based on the true blogging adventures of another girl, and her blog was made into a book - called Belle de Jour. (Which I've already read). The intimate Adventures of a London call girl. You can read up on how it all happened at wikipedia. The real blog is located here. (Also it's Belle DE jour, not Belle DU jour).

Do I relate to call girls? Absolutely, I know many girls who do that for a living, and I get why they do it, rather than work in a fucking office. I haven't or wouldn't have done it in the past, because I've been in a semi-monogamous relationship for the last 16 years with my husband. Outside of my playtime with girls, and 3 somes or more somes with him and those girls, I've not actually fucked another man, until 2001, I really really really wanted to experience being with a well hung black man. SO, after many years of it being a fantasy, I finally convinced hubby to be ok with it, and I tried it with a guy that we'd known for about 2 years. Unfortunately for me it was in a swimming pool, it was anti-climatic in that he honestly couldn't get anything besides the tip of his cock up inside of me, and even that felt tight and sore (probably looking back due to a lack of lube or foreplay).

SO then about 2 weeks ago, I did the whole thing with that guy Mark that I blogged about earlier (so I'm not going to go back into it). Hubby was best not pleased initially because I hadn't told him I was going to do it. Since then we've had some hot sex, while talking about me going out and getting satisfied by another guy, and that's kinda fed into the whole cuckolding thing which I've got in mind, thanks to Mike and now Dan (the guy I had phone sex with yesterday morning).

I think being a pro-domme is "nicer" in a lot of ways, if I'm not into someone I don't have to accept them as a client, and pretty much if you work for an escort agency, you have to accept whomever they send your way. Old, no teeth, saggy balls... and you have to fuck him... uggghhh you get the idea. As a dominatrix (if you're a real one anyway) then it's all about you, and you getting satisfied, and it certainly isn't about fucking him, unless we're talking about a good mind fucking.

What do I enjoy doing besides humiliating men? Tons of stuff!! I love flowers, and gardening. I recycle, and have a compost bin! I love vines, and wild flowers, the bigger and messier the better. I grow my own tomatoes, peppers, sugar snap peas, zucchini and mesclun lettuce ;-)

Here's some more answers to the questions you guys sent me via the yahoo group:

• How big is your strapon?

I have several strap ons, the largest is a 10" black cock, and the smallest is a 6" puny white cock.

• Where/how do you like to do golden showers?

I've given Golden Showers in a ton of ways.. Most favourite: When I'm being fingered to an orgasm, while standing up bent over the bathroom sink, slave below me, then it's a big mixture of cum, pee all combined.

While face-sitting a slave who is laying down.

I Love laying down and being eaten out, and when I'm all totally relaxed, I can squirt cum, then let loose with a nice big warm stream of urine, which hopefully the slave is lapping up, while humping the floor, or bed beneath him, begging to be allowed to cum...

Love public peeing, just squatting down and pissing wherever, and ordering a slave to squat next to me, and stick his hand in it, catching as much as possible, and then having him drink it, and then make him masturbate in public till he cums. Would love to make him walk around town with stained pants..

Have done it:

in the tub, squatting or standing over someone,
Straddling someone on the bathroom floor
Publicly taken a glass to a restroom and come back with it filled to the brim of my pee, and forced a slave to drink it, like it's a cocktail I've just brought him from the bar.. (Or I've gone to the bar, and helped myself to a slice of lime, or a cherry and brought it back, allowing my date to think it's another gimlet).
In the hotel pool at a swingers party, while wrapping my legs tightly around my date... (not proud of that, and don't pee in my own pool)!

• Do you enjoy dressing up while dominating?

Absolutely, what girl doesn't love to play dress up? It doesn't help that I owned a fetish boutique, and brought one of everything home.

I have to say though, it's not always necessary - clothes do NOT make the domme.

• Leather, stockings, pvc, boots, heels, etc?

I would say that my favourite pieces wind up being any imported leather - I have a couple of leather teddies which paired off with thigh high stockings, and a killer pair of shoes is an easy, sexy look to pull off. You can dress it up with a leather mini skirt.

I LOVE thigh high boots, however it gets fucking hot inside them! I love nothing more than ordering a slave to put them on, or take them off. The unzipping or unlacing down the inside of my thigh, all the way to my feet is a turn on to me.

PVC is REALLY FUCKING WARM - in fact you just sweat constantly in it, so I'm not that big of a fan, but do have some super sexy patent leather thigh high boots, and a super sexy red patent leather mini dress.

I also like simple black dresses, or suits, where I look more like the average person, who just happens to have a very kinky personality!

• What are some of your favorite forms of CBT?

I sometimes (like when I'm almost done with my period) get into painful cbt:

clothespins around the cock and balls, and then while using my riding crop I get off on slapping them off one at a time..

Serious ball kicking with high heels, or just bare feet

Taking my nails and squeezing, or scratching

Hot candle wax...