Tuesday, August 05, 2008

Rant..

God I fucking hate how stupid some of the "dominant" women (and I use that very loosely) involved with this lifestyle are. I tried catching up on some posts in various yahoo groups that I just subscribed to, but they're all fucking idiotic, mind numbing, unintelligent freaks, who are totally catering to the wishes of the men they're charging to play with. Hardly very "dominatrix" like.

There was so much crapola to get through that I don't even know where to begin: (here's some excerpts, and they'll remain nameless)..

"It's my b'day and I want to spend it with a sub who will take me to the hairdressers, the nail salon, then shopping, and what you buy for me I will use on you the NEXT time I see you".. OK, seriously, does that sound like fucking fun?? Who really in their right mind would want to spend anytime with that? She sounds like a broke, baby mama drama, lazy, unimaginative fuck. Another one who has one of those fucked up websites, with nothing on there except the now compulsory, contact me, images, session information... (but no pay-per-view area, so that was a bit of a bonus in her favour).

In my world, a man can actually get on his knees, no previous purchase required.

"No touching allowed" - WFT? "
I AM NOT AN ESCORT, and Domination/Fantasy-Role Play is NOT a service that involves ANY sex acts".

Do they have some kind of sensory issue? a fucked up skin disorder? Isn't this at all sexual to them, which would then in part require them to be touched by the person they're playing with? When I do this stuff, my body screams for an orgasm, and my skin aches to be touched, stroked, kissed, licked, and mostly ADORED! Why don't pro-dominant women like to fuck? Why do they have this whole holier than thou attitude that they're better than a prostitute, because they're not having sex for money... !!! WTF is that all about?

If a man is paying you for a session, you can bet that he expects to get off, because he's paying you for it! Fantasy role play is EXACTLY about sex acts.. what the fuck kinda fantasies do you have that don't involve sex??

Next up was...

"Morning Coffee" - "I spent 4 hours this morning strapping someone down to my rack with 26 leather straps to achieve complete head to toe bondage with suspension, but god forbid he's uncomfortable in that, I don't want to apply pressure to the wrong points... and it was the best cup of coffee I've had... yada yada yada.." Again WTF??

I can seriously think of a bazillion more ways to enjoy my morning coffee - namely sitting on a gorgeous veranda, looking at one of those infinity pools that just drops off the edge, with the ocean behind it. The sun is shining. Several men at the ready - one who can cook, and pour coffee. Another one who can suck my toes, like he's sucking a miniature cock. Two more boys who are intently sucking each others cocks, (just for my enjoyment mind you), with one of them dressed a little slutty, and the other naked in all his glory. Oh and did I mention that last boy? Well he's the one that I'm sitting on, he's my comfy chair for breakfast time and he's eating my pussy, and licking my ass.. and that's his breakfast. My clit is engorged, and throbbing, and I have waves of pleasure going through my entire body, because these men are here to serve me.

I'm sorry but no amount of money in the world would make me fart around for 4 hours strapping some asshole down to a table, and making sure he's all comfy and cosy in his leather cocoon, and I certainly wouldn't be telling anyone about it if I did do it (you know, just for the money). How the fuck is that enjoyable to any woman? They're LYING when they tell you that it is. Fucking liars. I know women, and I know what's enjoyable. That kinda morning would have totally ruined my fucking cup of joe and my entire day.

For me, this is all about being desired, about getting overwhelmed by that other persons sexual desire for me. Knowing that the other person wants and needs you so badly, is what this is all about.

That fetish that some of you have for serving women without *servicing* them. That’s the opposite of male submission. Because it has nothing to do with any kind of female sexual desire.

So who is serving whom?

I'm so bored, and annoyed and worked up now that not much else will make sense. What Femdom has been molded into, sucks. It's fucked up. It's totally no longer female domination. I'm tired of looking at all this male driven porn today and realizing how fake and pathetic it is. Where are all the real women?

Paying for it, versus not paying for it. Why do some people assume that the more you pay for something, the better it is? Why can people not see that in a male driven society, that men have controlled how pro-femdoms present themselves? Men have said that sexy is a beautiful fit model, wearing exquisite fetish wear, and doing exactly what you've told her to do, for the money that you're paying her. I'm even all ok with that picture, but let's not call it submission, or her a dominatrix.

3 comments:

Anonymous said...

Damn! It's very sexy to see you with your "irish" up! Would you like me to be available today, or this evening for your pleasure? Glad that the red is coming back to your hair from all the sun. Love that auburn look. Dan.

Anonymous said...

I did not read the source of the rant, but I do read Max Fisch The Hang from time to time so I feel like I do know what you are talking about. It is often infuriating reading some of the reviews because the guys feels so submissive. Like a master manipulator.

But I think a woman can also enjoy doing intricate bondage. Maybe you feel the detail oriented fetish stuff isn't as real and as immediate, and doesn't make your cheeks flush, but there can be magic in ritual. There can be very intense intimate connections in these fetish ritual moments. I admit it would closer to the role of a BDSM Masseuse. Massage doesn't need to be sexual to be healing.

According to Camille Paglia, some of the most sadistic women in old b&w films are the Swedish masseuses, who gleefully heal you through initially painful methods.

The ridiculous way Pro Dommes have to talk about sex to avoid Vice Cops is, well, far from truthful. It actually is all sexual. Watching a woman sucking a lollipop can be sexual though... I understand wanting to seperate themselves from the escort angle, if getting penetrated is not their desire.

You often point out how lame men can be, and I think Pro Dommes have to deal with some of the worst men. They often lie to themselves, their wives, their friends about who they are and what makes them happy. So misrepresenting themselves is just natural, and there are no consequences for lying here, because to them it is all so unreal. And they may harbor anger over someone else being so free with things they repress, and all the self loathing that goes with being what society considers to be negative. can be hard for the sheep. And of course in the sex industry, without bouncers the guys want to touch everything, grab grab grab. And they think with their money, they will get what they want. It seems so strange: here is my money, I want to submit, please do the following things. It gets even stranger, pro dommes offering cuckolding scenes and so on. Things that really can only happen between lovers or truly intimate people.

The french film "Maitresse" deals with that subject well. What a slave can mean to a mistress, and how real and not real it is.

I do think that someone could enjoy the role of being a sexual healer.

And there is such a thing a woman who enjoys the gear and the technique.

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